Convince your ageing parents to accept professional help


Convincing your parents to accept professional care is not an easy job. But if you carefully read this article you should be able to do this quite easily. Here are some tips you should keep in mind while talking to your parents about getting assistance.

Why are they resisting?

Just put some thought over the fact that why they are not willing to get professional assistance. There could be a number of reasons:
They have been hard working their entire lives. They did every job by themselves, and now it’s hard for them to accept anyone’s help.

They belonged to a poor family. And they might have monetary problems in the back of their mind.

Their mentality doesn’t allow them to trust anyone.

Or it could be that they are simply not comfortable with strangers.

Once you find the reason, you can think about the strategy to make him say yes!

  • Be Patient
    Convincing your parents can take days, weeks even months. Your parents are one who taught you to speak your first word. You are always going to be their “baby”. So they probably won’t pay heed to your advice. So you should be patient with them. Wait, talk again and again, in different ways. You must know that continuous falling water at last makes its way through stone.
  • Emphasize on your point through examples
    Give your parents the examples of other people who are enjoying professional care. Tell them that it’s okay to have one. Neither its old-fashioned nor it’s something that to make much fuss over.
  • Proper Timing
    Choosing a proper time is a key feature. A right saying on wrong time can be disastrous.
    Think about a perfect time, when they are ready to listen to you. They must not be tired. That time can be evening or early in the morning. If they are tired, and not in the right state of mind, well, they will not respond correctly.
  • .. Nah!
    If your parents hate caregivers, then while talking don’t use the word caregiver. Else, you may call them your housekeeper (or even servant, in severe cases). This way, they may feel good and accept them in their home.
  • Beloved Sibling
    In each family, there is always a person to whom parents love the most. You should include him/her while talking to your parent. They can convince them. Beloved sibling can say: “you know how much I love you. Do you know how much I feel for you when I am not here? I can’t concentrate on my work. Please Say Yes. Just for me, Dad!”
    And you will see how this magic works. “While you may be feeling jealous, keep your feelings to yourself for now.”
  • Logical Parents
    If you have logical parents (Yeah, they exist). Then your job is quite easy. You just have to come up with some good logics to make them realize they need professional care. Once you are done, they will never resist.

Keep these things in your mind, sit alone, and make a strategy to talk to your parents in light of above written points. And surely they won’t hesitate in accepting. Best of surely they won’t hesitate in accepting. Best of luck!

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Nefr Israel 

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